Friends can make or break you. They say that you’re the average of your five closest friends. If that’s the case, how are you doing?

More relevant to our topic: are your friends helping your with your goals or are the hindering?

Almost all of the time this will happen:

You have these goals of being sustainable, buying less, buying more consciously, and reusing/repurposing clothes. You’re nervous to tell your friends because that means your Saturday afternoon shopping trips will end, or they’ll look at you weird, or tell you you’re crazy – basically they won’t understand. You get up the courage and finally share your goals, telling your friends that you’d like their support and to maybe change the activities which you two share together. Your friends react with, “OMG that is really cool/awesome. Totally. Actually, there was this art festival I saw that would be awesome to check out next weekend.”

If your friends are your friends, then they care for you, hopefully understand you, and definitely support you. So most of the time, they’ll have no issues what-so-ever changing the focus of the time you spend together because, isn’t the point, spending time together? You’d be surprised how accepting or supportive they’ll be. You might even be surprised by their own confessions of consumer debt, insecurities, or desire to be more sustainable but just not knowing how. Either way, consider it the optimist in me, but your friends will likely relish the opportunity to connect or do new and exciting things together.

And if they don’t? Well, I hate to say it, but were they ever really friends in the first place? I mean isn’t it the definition of friendship to love, care and support? And may I be so bold as to suggest that the lack of real friendship might be what’s driving your unhealthy habits? In more than just fashion and finance? Not for me to question your squad, that’s up to you.

And again, if you’ve got no one to have your back. Shoot me an email or a DM. I got you.

Dress – Harla Designs
Sunnies – Betsey Johnson via Winners
Boots – thrifted